I was at a support group meeting a few weeks ago and decided that I would say my pronouns were masculine. I was just trying to experiment. I was surprised by how empowering it was to hear people call me "he" and "him." Have you thought about your pronouns lately? What if someone called you by something that didn't fit? Sometimes this happens by accident, or because they don't know how you identify. Sometimes it's an act of aggression, bullying.
Most of the time, outside of my support group I'm a "she," but that has stopped feeling right to me. Like when I decided to change my name, hearing "she" feels jarring...wrong, as wrong as my old name used to feel, and still feels when I hear it. It's a knee jerk..."not me" feeling. Even though "she" stopped feeling right, I didn't know until I heard someone say "he" and "him" what did feel right. It feels just, congruous.
Most of the time, outside of my support group I'm a "she," but that has stopped feeling right to me. Like when I decided to change my name, hearing "she" feels jarring...wrong, as wrong as my old name used to feel, and still feels when I hear it. It's a knee jerk..."not me" feeling. Even though "she" stopped feeling right, I didn't know until I heard someone say "he" and "him" what did feel right. It feels just, congruous.
a : being in agreement, harmony, or correspondence
b : conforming to the circumstances or requirements of a situation : appropriate <a congruous room to work in — G. B. Shaw>
2
: marked or enhanced by harmonious agreement among constituent elements <a congruous theme>
— con·gru·ous·ly adverb
— con·gru·ous·ness noun
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